Congratulations on being engaged, you’re going to get married! So, when is the big day? Now there’s a question, right? This is a difficult decision for any couple. There is so much to consider, and so much to plan beforehand. You need to find a venue, choose a dress, choose twist strap dresses for the bridesmaids, organise accommodation, food, colour schemes, write the vows – how long does all of that take? Can you be engaged for too long?
You’re going to pick the right day for you both, as long as you take your time, and think carefully about your choice. Here are seven useful tips to consider to help you choose the right wedding date
- The Planning
It may be that you want a summer wedding but you’re engaged in Autumn the previous year and you simply don’t have time to get everything sorted in time, in which case you can either compromise and choose an Autumn or Winter wedding, or you can wait until the next year. Think about your job, money you need to save, your lifestyle and the time you have free to plan the wedding and factor in how long you would actually like to plan. If you’re pregnant you might also want to think about which side of pregnancy you would like to get married.
The weather you get for your wedding will have an effect on it. Although you can’t predict the weather all too well in the UK, you can have a rough idea of the kind of weather to hope for at least when choosing different seasons. So clearly if you choose a wedding in Winter you’re looking at possibly wearing some sort of shawl or coat with your wedding dress, you’re likely to need a covered reception. You’re looking at extensive romantic lighting, hot drinks, heating and the potential for some pretty tricky weather. Not necessarily snow, but possibly icy, raining or windy conditions. With Spring you can expect more sunshine, new growth, lots of greenery and a fresh but slightly warmer wedding. However, remember Spring can bring snowfall and lots of rain. Summer is the most popular season for getting married, because it is when we hope for the best weather. If you want that lovely British strawberries, outdoor marquee, children playing on the lawn quintessential wedding, Summer is a good choice but do expect to pay premium for the pleasure. Autumn is fast becoming a fantastic choice for a wedding because the colours of nature are so beautiful, and over the last few years we have been getting warmer weather and even some Indian summers during September.
There are lots of days that provide a ton of symbolism for you both. Wouldn’t it be nice to marry on a day that already means something to you as a couple? How about the day you first spoke to each other, the day of your first date, or the date of the wedding proposal? You could extend it to the day your parents got married? Or even the date your grandparents met. In many cultures there are auspicious dates which are chosen which are dates deemed to be lucky or particularly valuable as wedding dates. In Hindu culture the zodiac signs of the couple help determine a date, in China the Chinese calendar and zodiac signs determine a date, In Roman Catholic culture the religious calendar plays a big part. In many culture January is seen as a lucky month to marry, whereas May is seen as an unlucky month. You won’t get a date right by all cultures and religions, but if there is a culture or religion important to you you could choose a symbolic date based on historical methods of choosing within that culture.
- The Cost
As we said in the previous section, you will pay a premium for a Summer wedding. Everybody wants the best chance of a warm, bright day. Other times that cost more are weekend weddings. If you’re prepared to marry on a weekday you will pay less. Marry on a weekday in Winter and you’ll be saving a lot of money.
- Other Special Events
If you choose to marry around Christmas, Easter, Halloween you will have a theme already picked out for you. You will also get to enjoy the many decorations around at the time to use for your wedding (you could even get them on offer the year before after that holiday has ended). Do remember though that people may already be busy or have plans for that particular holiday and may struggle to get to your wedding.
- People That Matter
Although you cannot find out when all your guests are free and choose a date around them, there may be some people you will work around. Consider your priority guests and check the date with them before making a full choice, especially if it would ruin your wedding to not have certain people there.
- Days You Should Avoid
Certain days should be avoided at all costs. This is usually individual to the person. Certain religious holidays if you are religious, certain days that will affect traffic in your local area (local annual marathons, National holidays etc), certain days that you don’t tend to celebrate (dates people may have passed away, dates of a previous wedding etc).
Remember that your wedding date is a very personal choice, and one that should be considered very very carefully. Don’t let the moment you remember why a date is a bad choice, be after you have put a hefty deposit down on a venue for that date. Take your time and do your research, and you will be rewarded with a wedding date to truly look forward to.